Dear friends,

In a recent Life Kit episode, my now-friend, reporter, and introvert Yowei Shaw shared a familiar dilemma: she adores her extroverted friends, but sometimes the energy mismatch leaves her feeling drained, confused, or even guilty. “Why does hanging out with someone I love feel so bad?” she wondered.

Yowei’s experience captures a universal truth: introverts and extroverts often miss each other’s signals. Extroverts may bring enthusiasm, volume, and spontaneity, while introverts lean toward reflection, quiet connection, and intentionality. And since most of us fall somewhere on a spectrum, not a binary, mismatches are common and hard to talk about. As Yowei puts it, “It feels like saying, ‘I love you, but I’m having a hard time with your personality.’”

To better understand this tension, Yowei turned to me to help her navigate this challenge. 

The conversation digs into common pain points on both sides and offers practical ways to deepen friendships across personality differences. Advice like, “Invent some hacks to meet everyone's needs and tell your friend what you love about them.”

Lots more compacted here so check out this short episode and consider subscribing to Life Kit and Proxy podcasts! 

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Three tips for promoting yourself as an introvert

Partner Spotlight: QuickCoach

I’m excited to highlight QuickCoach, a platform I’ve partnered with for several years and one I deeply trust. QuickCoach pioneered enterprise microlearning and today leads the way in AI-powered performance support. Their approach makes learning simple, actionable, and truly accessible — a mission that aligns with everything I believe about helping people grow at work.

It’s no surprise they were named one of the “AI in Training” companies to watch by Training Industry, and recognized by Human Resource Executive as a Top 10 Training Product. HR and L&D leaders around the world rely on QuickCoach to build skills and deliver results without adding complexity.

I’m delighted to have several programs on their platform. The short clip above about promoting introverts offers a sneak peek—I hope it inspires you to explore more about how these micro-lessons can make a difference for you and your teams. 

For more info on Quick Coach Microlearning, reach out to my friend and company founder, Jon Peters at jpeters@athenaonline.com

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Warmly,

Jennifer Kahnweiler, PhD, CSP, is a bestselling author, keynote speaker, and podcast host. She elevates introverted voices to create thriving, high-impact workplaces and helps strengthen introvert-extrovert teams. Her latest book is The Introverted Leader (3rd Edition). Season 4 of her podcast, Introvert Ally launches in January.

🌐 www.jenniferkahnweiler.com
📧 jennifer@jenniferkahnweiler.com

Recording our Proxy Interview. From top left,
Comedian Aparna Nancheria, top right, Coach Ryan Letts, bottom left, myself, bottom right, Proxy Podcast Host Yowei Shaw. 

Dear friends,

What happens when introverts and extroverts form deep friendships?

In the newest episode of Proxy with award-winning host Yowei Shaw, I was the surprise guest joining a vibrant (and emotional!) discussion about what drives us crazy about each other — and what we secretly envy.

Together with Ryan Letts (they/them) and Aparna Nancherla, we explored the humor and heart that surface when opposites attract. By the end, there were more than a few tears as we uncovered how these relationships help us grow and understand ourselves better.

Yowei’s thoughtful preparation and masterful editing reminded me why storytelling matters. She took a wide-ranging conversation and wove it into something meaningful.
 

Episode Highlights

1. Exploring Our Grievances
It started by naming what gets under our skin — from introverts needing space to extroverts craving engagement. The honesty and laughter in this exchange set the tone for everything that followed.
2. Why Introverts Ghost
 Ever wonder why an introverted friend might disappear for a while? The discussion unpacked the myth of “ghosting” and reframed it as necessary solitude — a time to recharge, not reject.
3. When Extrovert Energy Is Too Much (or Just Right)
 Sometimes an extrovert’s enthusiasm can feel like a tidal wave. But when that energy is grounded in empathy, it becomes a bridge, not a barrier.
4. Introvert ↔ Extrovert Pet Peeves
 We laughed about the quirks that drive each other crazy — the talker who fills every silence, the quiet friend who never picks up the phone — and recognized the small adjustments that make these friendships thrive. We had fun playing a buzzer game to spot our pet peeves. 
5.  Finding Validation in Friendships
We reflected on how friendship with our opposites can help us to appreciate our own strengths. The episode closes on sweet note — a reminder that we all need to share what we truly appreciate about each other.
 

Support “Emotional Journalism”
If you enjoy Proxy, please consider subscribing and supporting Yowei Shaw’s incredible work in the growin movement of “emotional journalism.” She and other hosts are willing to explore our motivations and personal challenges. I am a convert. 
 Her storytelling brings humanity, humor, and heart to every episode — and this one is no exception.
 Listen here: [Insert episode link]
  Donate or subscribe: https://www.patreon.com/cw/ProxyPodcast
  Explore her newsletter: https://www.patreon.com/posts/extrovert-and-140824660 — it’s awesome and filled with useful insights!
 

P.S. Bonus Episode
“How This Introvert Ally (and Extrovert Gets Along with Introverts) 
In the last episode, the Proxy team asked me to mediate what they called a “cage match” between introverts and extroverts — and wow, did it spark conversation!
Now, in this bonus episode (offered to Proxy subscribers and YOU, my newsletter subscribers) we take it a step further. I share what changes I’ve made to get along better with the introverts in my life and answer listener questions from the live chat.

Listen to the bonus conversation here.

What have you learned from your opposite-energy friends? 
Whare your thoughts with me at jennifer@jenniferkahnweiler.com or on Linked In.

Oh, and one more thing: Check out the book I refer to, The Genius of Opposites: How Introverts and Extroverts Achieve Extraordinary Results Together for more ideas. 
 
Warmly,

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD, CSP is a keynote speaker, bestselling author, and host of The Introvert Ally podcast. Her pioneering books are in 18 languages. 

🌐 www.jenniferkahnweiler.com
📧 jennifer@jenniferkahnweiler.com
 

Recording our Proxy Interview. From top left,
Comedian Aparna Nancheria, top right, Coach Ryan Letts, bottom left, myself, bottom right, Proxy Podcast Host Yowei Shaw. 

Dear friends,

What happens when introverts and extroverts form deep friendships?

In the newest episode of Proxy with award-winning host Yowei Shaw, I was the surprise guest joining a vibrant (and emotional!) discussion about what drives us crazy about each other — and what we secretly envy.

Together with Ryan Letts (they/them) and Aparna Nancherla, we explored the humor and heart that surface when opposites attract. By the end, there were more than a few tears as we uncovered how these relationships help us grow and understand ourselves better.

Yowei’s thoughtful preparation and masterful editing reminded me why storytelling matters. She took a wide-ranging conversation and wove it into something meaningful.
 

Episode Highlights

1. Exploring Our Grievances
It started by naming what gets under our skin — from introverts needing space to extroverts craving engagement. The honesty and laughter in this exchange set the tone for everything that followed.
2. Why Introverts Ghost
 Ever wonder why an introverted friend might disappear for a while? The discussion unpacked the myth of “ghosting” and reframed it as necessary solitude — a time to recharge, not reject.
3. When Extrovert Energy Is Too Much (or Just Right)
 Sometimes an extrovert’s enthusiasm can feel like a tidal wave. But when that energy is grounded in empathy, it becomes a bridge, not a barrier.
4. Introvert ↔ Extrovert Pet Peeves
 We laughed about the quirks that drive each other crazy — the talker who fills every silence, the quiet friend who never picks up the phone — and recognized the small adjustments that make these friendships thrive. We had fun playing a buzzer game to spot our pet peeves. 
5.  Finding Validation in Friendships
We reflected on how friendship with our opposites can help us to appreciate our own strengths. The episode closes on sweet note — a reminder that we all need to share what we truly appreciate about each other.
 

Support “Emotional Journalism”
If you enjoy Proxy, please consider subscribing and supporting Yowei Shaw’s incredible work in the growin movement of “emotional journalism.” She and other hosts are willing to explore our motivations and personal challenges. I am a convert. 
 Her storytelling brings humanity, humor, and heart to every episode — and this one is no exception.
 Listen here: [Insert episode link]
  Donate or subscribe: https://www.patreon.com/cw/ProxyPodcast
  Explore her newsletter: https://www.patreon.com/posts/extrovert-and-140824660 — it’s awesome and filled with useful insights!
 

P.S. Bonus Episode
“How This Introvert Ally (and Extrovert Gets Along with Introverts) 
In the last episode, the Proxy team asked me to mediate what they called a “cage match” between introverts and extroverts — and wow, did it spark conversation!
Now, in this bonus episode (offered to Proxy subscribers and YOU, my newsletter subscribers) we take it a step further. I share what changes I’ve made to get along better with the introverts in my life and answer listener questions from the live chat.

Listen to the bonus conversation here.

What have you learned from your opposite-energy friends? 
Whare your thoughts with me at jennifer@jenniferkahnweiler.com or on Linked In.

Oh, and one more thing: Check out the book I refer to, The Genius of Opposites: How Introverts and Extroverts Achieve Extraordinary Results Together for more ideas. 
 
Warmly,

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD, CSP is a keynote speaker, bestselling author, and host of The Introvert Ally podcast. Her pioneering books are in 18 languages. 

🌐 www.jenniferkahnweiler.com
📧 jennifer@jenniferkahnweiler.com
 

Gratitude, Wisdom, and Hallway Conversations

This month, I had the joy of attending The National Speakers Association’s Influence conference in Phoenix, AZ. It was good to be back after missing it for several years. The official program was stellar—keynotes that challenged my thinking, breakouts brimming with fresh ideas—but some of the most valuable learning happened in between sessions in what long-time attendees call “hallway conversations.”

In those spontaneous chats, I connected with both seasoned speakers and fresh voices starting their journey. Ideas flowed freely, advice was openly shared, and encouragement was in no short supply. These moments reminded me why I love this work—smart, authentic people committed to making an impact and lifting each other up along the way. Shout out to friends in the above photo collage; Sam Horn. Mark Levy, Michelle Pascoe, CSP, Sylvie DiGiusto, CSP, CPAE  Here are a few themes that emerged:

A Few Notes and Quotes

• AI + Humanity
  No surprise. There was a lot of conversation about AI—how we need to learn to use it. But several speakers also stressed the importance of emphasizing the human factor. As Collette Carlson, CPAE, reminded us:
  “Influence is chemistry, not code, and connection is the competitive edge that shows you care.”
  One useful tip is to consult with AI when trying to find out what might be missing in your LinkedIn and Website bios. You might be surprised.
  
  Stories, Stories, Stories
  Stories connect us. One memorable exercise was “The Brain Tattoo,” where we shared personal stories with a partner.
  

• My story? Husband Bill saved me that night when my GPS failed on the dark rural roads of eastern Pennsylvania. I teared up when I recounted the experience to the nice man sitting next to me.

  Bill always makes sure I’m getting where I’m going—on planes, trains, and automobiles. We wrote our themes on our bodies to remind us of these important stories and invite conversation from others. It was also a unique and meaningful way to converse with strangers. You can see my tattoo on my arms (it was made with a black marker and thankfully came off with a good wiping:).

                                                              ”My Road to Safety.”

• Preparation
  Watching two young men on a Ninja course demonstrated the power of preparation and high performance. Their dad, speaker Ty Bennett, said, “ We fall to the level of our preparation. We don’t rise to the occasion.” This aligns beautifully with our  4 P’s model: Prepare, Presence, Push, and Practice for Introverted Leaders. When you are prepared, you can be in the moment.

• Speaker Phil Van Hooser, CPAE, quoted his grandmother in his story from the stage. “When you are talking, you aren’t learning anything.”
  

  Other Memorable Quotes  

  • “You decide your relevance, not others in the industry.” Thom Singer, CSP

  • “Hear the cry for hope.” – Simon T. Bailey,  CSP, CPAE

  • “Bring your audience into the story” - John Register, CSP, CPAE

I’m excited to put so many of these new insights into action in the months ahead—through speaking, writing, and of course, in conversations with you.

Here’s to a season of connection, preparation, and listening deeply!

Podcast Guest Appearances

It has been fun to make recent appearances on the podcasts I admire. Here are two recent ones to check out!

The Hidden Power of Introverts in Leadership with Brandon Smith

Revising the Introverted Leader with Darcy Eikenberg

Unlocking Introvert Potential in Operations with Laura Malinowski

Don’t forget to order your copy and post a review of The Introverted Leader, 3rd edition. We have been hearing very positive feedback about the new, refreshed content!

You can download free chapters and an audio clip at that link as well.

We are also excited about our well-received virtual programs and on-demand opportunities for PDU and HR credit. Thank you!

Warmly,

Jennifer

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Gratitude, Wisdom, and Hallway Conversations

This month, I had the joy of attending The National Speakers Association’s Influence conference in Phoenix, AZ. It was good to be back after missing it for several years. The official program was stellar—keynotes that challenged my thinking, breakouts brimming with fresh ideas—but some of the most valuable learning happened in between sessions in what long-time attendees call “hallway conversations.”

In those spontaneous chats, I connected with both seasoned speakers and fresh voices starting their journey. Ideas flowed freely, advice was openly shared, and encouragement was in no short supply. These moments reminded me why I love this work—smart, authentic people committed to making an impact and lifting each other up along the way. Shout out to friends in the above photo collage; Sam Horn. Mark Levy, Michelle Pascoe, CSP, Sylvie DiGiusto, CSP, CPAE  Here are a few themes that emerged:

A Few Notes and Quotes

• AI + Humanity
  No surprise. There was a lot of conversation about AI—how we need to learn to use it. But several speakers also stressed the importance of emphasizing the human factor. As Collette Carlson, CPAE, reminded us:
  “Influence is chemistry, not code, and connection is the competitive edge that shows you care.”
  One useful tip is to consult with AI when trying to find out what might be missing in your LinkedIn and Website bios. You might be surprised.
  
  Stories, Stories, Stories
  Stories connect us. One memorable exercise was “The Brain Tattoo,” where we shared personal stories with a partner.
  

• My story? Husband Bill saved me that night when my GPS failed on the dark rural roads of eastern Pennsylvania. I teared up when I recounted the experience to the nice man sitting next to me.

  Bill always makes sure I’m getting where I’m going—on planes, trains, and automobiles. We wrote our themes on our bodies to remind us of these important stories and invite conversation from others. It was also a unique and meaningful way to converse with strangers. You can see my tattoo on my arms (it was made with a black marker and thankfully came off with a good wiping:).

                                                              ”My Road to Safety.”

• Preparation
  Watching two young men on a Ninja course demonstrated the power of preparation and high performance. Their dad, speaker Ty Bennett, said, “ We fall to the level of our preparation. We don’t rise to the occasion.” This aligns beautifully with our  4 P’s model: Prepare, Presence, Push, and Practice for Introverted Leaders. When you are prepared, you can be in the moment.

• Speaker Phil Van Hooser, CPAE, quoted his grandmother in his story from the stage. “When you are talking, you aren’t learning anything.”
  

  Other Memorable Quotes  

  • “You decide your relevance, not others in the industry.” Thom Singer, CSP

  • “Hear the cry for hope.” – Simon T. Bailey,  CSP, CPAE

  • “Bring your audience into the story” - John Register, CSP, CPAE

I’m excited to put so many of these new insights into action in the months ahead—through speaking, writing, and of course, in conversations with you.

Here’s to a season of connection, preparation, and listening deeply!

Podcast Guest Appearances

It has been fun to make recent appearances on the podcasts I admire. Here are two recent ones to check out!

The Hidden Power of Introverts in Leadership with Brandon Smith

Revising the Introverted Leader with Darcy Eikenberg

Unlocking Introvert Potential in Operations with Laura Malinowski

Don’t forget to order your copy and post a review of The Introverted Leader, 3rd edition. We have been hearing very positive feedback about the new, refreshed content!

You can download free chapters and an audio clip at that link as well.

We are also excited about our well-received virtual programs and on-demand opportunities for PDU and HR credit. Thank you!

Warmly,

Jennifer

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Cool Breezes and Warm Receptions: Reflections from SHRM25

After days of sweltering 90-degree humidity in Atlanta, I couldn’t have been more grateful to land in beautiful San Diego, complete with cool ocean breezes and perfect California weather.

I wrapped up the exciting launch week for The Introverted Leader: Building on Your Quiet Strength, 3rd Edition at SHRM25, where I had the privilege of presenting two sessions to thoughtful and engaged Human Resource audiences.

I always cherish the opportunity to connect with HR professionals—true unsung heroes of the workplace. They juggle countless roles with grace and courage and are increasingly becoming champions for introvert awareness and workplace inclusion.

Now Is the Time for Introverted HR Professionals

Our first session, Now Is the Time for Introverted HR Professionals, drew over 300 attendees—a clear sign that this topic is resonating. We began by reflecting on the introverts who’ve made a difference in our lives. I shared the story of my Uncle Sike, a quiet man who always made me feel confident, and audience members shared stories of their own quiet role models—who embody the very strengths introverts bring to leadership, teamwork, and innovation.

Those strengths—listening, preparation, observation, reflection, and writing—are not “nice-to-haves.” They are leadership essentials, especially in today’s rapidly evolving workplaces. These strengths align beautifully with SHRM’s core competencies and offer organizations a tremendous advantage.

We also explored practical strategies that HR pros can bring back to their organizations:

• Build more inclusive meeting formats

• Design quiet spaces for focused work

• Value written communication and reflection

• Rethink performance evaluations to honor diverse work styles

ERGs for Introverts: A Growing Movement

In the second session, we turned the spotlight on the growing trend of Employee Resource Groups (ERGs) for introverts. We shared how these ERGs foster a sense of community and well-being by creating spaces and conversations that honor quieter ways of working. If you’d like to learn more, you can check out a deeper dive on Introvert ERGs in my Linked In Newsletter.

SHRM25: A Model for Inclusion

I was also heartened to see the conference itself embracing introvert-friendly practices:

• Conversation Starter Pins: Members grabbed pins at registration with their industry label. Networking was made more natural by eliminating the small talk that introverts have little patience for

• Low Sensory Room: A calm, quiet space with puzzles, fidget cubes, writing materials, and cozy chairs for a mid-conference reset.

• Yoga & Meditation Room: A haven for reflection, movement, and stillness—a true introvert’s dream.

These small yet meaningful touches reminded me how organizations thrive when we embrace all styles of working, leading, and connecting.

Warmly,

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD

Keynote Speaker | Bestselling Author | Host, Introvert Ally Podcast

📘 Pre-order: The Introverted Leader: Building on Your Quiet Strength, 3rd Edition

🎤 Explore Speaking Programs: Visit Website

📣 Thank You—and a Small Request!

A heartfelt thank you to everyone who engaged in the book launch! And gratitude to those of you who have already purchased The Introverted Leader: Building on Your Quiet Strength, 3rd Edition from your favorite bookseller and taken the time to leave an Amazon review.

We’re currently at 15 reviews and are aiming to reach 30 reviews this week. If you’ve read the book and found it valuable, would you please take a moment to share your thoughts on Amazon? The review doesn’t have to be long—just a few sentences can make a big difference. And photos or videos are also a bonus!

📚 Haven’t ordered your copy of my new book yet? Thanks in advance for grabbing it in your favorite form including the new audio version! Here is an audio sample to check out!

👉 Order the book

👉 Leave an Amazon Review

Thank you so much!

Warmly,

Jennifer

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Cool Breezes and Warm Receptions: Reflections from SHRM25

After days of sweltering 90-degree humidity in Atlanta, I couldn’t have been more grateful to land in beautiful San Diego, complete with cool ocean breezes and perfect California weather.

I wrapped up the exciting launch week for The Introverted Leader: Building on Your Quiet Strength, 3rd Edition at SHRM25, where I had the privilege of presenting two sessions to thoughtful and engaged Human Resource audiences.

I always cherish the opportunity to connect with HR professionals—true unsung heroes of the workplace. They juggle countless roles with grace and courage and are increasingly becoming champions for introvert awareness and workplace inclusion.

Now Is the Time for Introverted HR Professionals

Our first session, Now Is the Time for Introverted HR Professionals, drew over 300 attendees—a clear sign that this topic is resonating. We began by reflecting on the introverts who’ve made a difference in our lives. I shared the story of my Uncle Sike, a quiet man who always made me feel confident, and audience members shared stories of their own quiet role models—who embody the very strengths introverts bring to leadership, teamwork, and innovation.

Those strengths—listening, preparation, observation, reflection, and writing—are not “nice-to-haves.” They are leadership essentials, especially in today’s rapidly evolving workplaces. These strengths align beautifully with SHRM’s core competencies and offer organizations a tremendous advantage.

We also explored practical strategies that HR pros can bring back to their organizations:

• Build more inclusive meeting formats

• Design quiet spaces for focused work

• Value written communication and reflection

• Rethink performance evaluations to honor diverse work styles

ERGs for Introverts: A Growing Movement

In the second session, we turned the spotlight on the growing trend of Employee Resource Groups (ERGs) for introverts. We shared how these ERGs foster a sense of community and well-being by creating spaces and conversations that honor quieter ways of working. If you’d like to learn more, you can check out a deeper dive on Introvert ERGs in my Linked In Newsletter.

SHRM25: A Model for Inclusion

I was also heartened to see the conference itself embracing introvert-friendly practices:

• Conversation Starter Pins: Members grabbed pins at registration with their industry label. Networking was made more natural by eliminating the small talk that introverts have little patience for

• Low Sensory Room: A calm, quiet space with puzzles, fidget cubes, writing materials, and cozy chairs for a mid-conference reset.

• Yoga & Meditation Room: A haven for reflection, movement, and stillness—a true introvert’s dream.

These small yet meaningful touches reminded me how organizations thrive when we embrace all styles of working, leading, and connecting.

Warmly,

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD

Keynote Speaker | Bestselling Author | Host, Introvert Ally Podcast

📘 Pre-order: The Introverted Leader: Building on Your Quiet Strength, 3rd Edition

🎤 Explore Speaking Programs: Visit Website

📣 Thank You—and a Small Request!

A heartfelt thank you to everyone who engaged in the book launch! And gratitude to those of you who have already purchased The Introverted Leader: Building on Your Quiet Strength, 3rd Edition from your favorite bookseller and taken the time to leave an Amazon review.

We’re currently at 15 reviews and are aiming to reach 30 reviews this week. If you’ve read the book and found it valuable, would you please take a moment to share your thoughts on Amazon? The review doesn’t have to be long—just a few sentences can make a big difference. And photos or videos are also a bonus!

📚 Haven’t ordered your copy of my new book yet? Thanks in advance for grabbing it in your favorite form including the new audio version! Here is an audio sample to check out!

👉 Order the book

👉 Leave an Amazon Review

Thank you so much!

Warmly,

Jennifer

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In the season finale of Introvert Ally, Jennifer Kahnweiler welcomes back her favorite recurring guest—and husband—Dr. Bill Kahnweiler, to reflect on the standout themes from an especially rich and extended third season. With 14 insightful episodes featuring a wide array of introverted leaders and allies, Jennifer and Bill deeply dive into the key takeaways and personal reflections that emerged.

Bill, the self-proclaimed “resident introvert,” listened to each episode and distilled five thoughtful themes that surfaced across conversations:

🔹 Push Outside Your Comfort Zone – Many guests shared how growth often required introverts to intentionally step out of their preferred solitude to be seen, heard, and valued at work.

🔹 Extroverts Have Needs Too – A call for mutual understanding: just as introverts need space and quiet, extroverts thrive on interaction and energy. Valuing differences means recognizing and respecting both.

🔹 Communicate Needs Clearly – Introverts can’t assume their extroverted bosses or colleagues know what they need. Whether it’s more time to process or space to reflect, saying it aloud matters.

🔹 Beware Negative Self-Talk – Many introverts internalize messages that something’s “wrong” with them. Guests like Jennifer FitzPatrick and Carrie Wheeler reminded us to embrace introversion as a strength, not a flaw.

🔹 Break the Stereotypes – From introverts excelling in sales and networking (thanks, Andy Lopata!) to scientists being just as likely to be extroverted as not (Dr. Gwen Acton), guests consistently shattered outdated myths.

The episode is filled with warmth, candid stories, humor, and thoughtful moments—plus a few laughs about life and partnership in a household of one introvert and one extrovert.

Tune in for an engaging wrap-up to an inspiring season. And stay tuned—this may be the finale, but it’s certainly not the end of the conversation.
Resource: 

Shaping Your HR Role by William M. Kahnweiler, Ph.D. and Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, Ph.D. Routledge,Taylor and Francis 2005 

🎙️ LISTEN NOW:

👉 You can listen to the podcast at our website.

Thanks for tuning in to Introvert Ally—where we elevate the quieter voices leading the way.

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD, is a keynote speaker, bestselling author, and The Introvert Ally podcast host.   Her pioneering books have been translated into 18 languages. The Introverted Leader was named one of the top 5 business books by The Shanghai Daily. She has delivered keynotes from Singapore to Spain. Her engaging presentations to diverse audiences blend research with provocative examples and practical tools. Jennifer has been featured in The Wall Street Journal, Forbes, and The New York Times and has appeared as a guest on over 100 podcasts. 

www.jenniferkahnweiler.com
jennifer@jenniferkahnweiler.com
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The countdown is on! I’d love for you to join me for a special virtual celebration of the newly updated 3rd edition of The Introverted Leader: Building On Your Quiet Strength.

We'll toast the book’s launch with our favorite beverages and connect for a fun and inspiring hour. 🎉 

There’s still time to register — and I hope to see you there!

Here’s what’s planned:

• 🗣️ Author Q&A

• ✍️ Free copy of The Quiet Journal

• 🎁 Trivia & Prizes

• 📸 Group photo — bring your book!

📅 Tuesday, June 24th at 12:00 PM ET
 🔗 Register Here 

It’s going to be a meaningful (and fun!) celebration of quiet leadership — I’d be honored to have you join me. 

Warmly,

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD, is a keynote speaker, bestselling author, and host of The Introvert Ally podcast. Her pioneering books are in 18 languages. Pre-order her book, The Introverted Leader: Building on Your Quiet Strength, 3rd Edition, and join us on June 24th at noon EST for our virtual launch, featuring giveaways and celebrations! Register here.

🌐 www.jenniferkahnweiler.com
📧 jennifer@jenniferkahnweiler.com
 

This week's episode features my dear friend and colleague, Tricia Molloy. With over 2,000 testimonials written, Tricia has developed a proven framework for creating resonant messages. She breaks down her signature approach—focusing on problem-solving, specific examples, and emotional connection—and offers listeners practical tips for both asking for and writing effective recommendations. Her advice applies to LinkedIn and preparing for your next career move.

Often challenged with self-promotion, introverts will significantly benefit from listening to Tricia’s advice.

She also examines the importance of maintaining workplace relationships throughout one's career, not just when one needs something, and how the diversity of voices in one's recommendations can tell a richer story about one's impact.

Tricia emphasizes asking for testimonials from people of different backgrounds, generations, and industries, aligning with the evolving needs of your career journey. Tricia also shares how testimonials can be repurposed to support transitions, such as career changes or promotions.

🎧IN THIS EPISODE:

• Tricia’s career journey and evolution from media to entrepreneurship.
   

• The power of testimonials in building credibility and career momentum.
   

• How to craft and request recommendations that resonate.
   

• Relationship-building in and beyond the workplace.
   

• Aligning testimonials with future goals and job opportunities.

📘 Featured Resource:

Working with Wisdom by Tricia Molloy

Tricia’s website

🎙️ LISTEN NOW:

👉 You can listen to the podcast at our website.

Thanks for tuning in to Introvert Ally—where we elevate the quieter voices leading the way.

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD, is a keynote speaker, bestselling author, and host of The Introvert Ally podcast. Her pioneering books are in 18 languages. Pre-order her book, The Introverted Leader: Building on Your Quiet Strength, 3rd Edition, and join us on June 24th at noon EST for our virtual launch, featuring giveaways and celebrations! Register here.

www.jenniferkahnweiler.com
jennifer@jenniferkahnweiler.com
404-316-6891

🎤 June Is Presentation Month

I've been soaking in the sights and sounds of nature while creating fresh presentations inspired by the new book. I'm excited to share these ideas with you in the coming weeks!

🥂 You're Invited: Virtual Book Launch!

📅 June 24 | 🕛 12 PM ET

Let’s toast the new edition of The Introverted Leader together—with trivia, behind-the-scenes stories, and special guests, including my husband and introvert inspiration, Bill Kahnweiler.

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🖋️ Fresh Ink: Author Conversation

📅 June 19 | 🕐 1 PM ET
Join author Joel Schwartzberg and me for a lively conversation about the new editions of our books, moderated by the brilliant John Kador.

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🎤 Speaking at SHRM25

Two powerful sessions—live in San Diego and virtual!

🧠 Now Is the Time for Introverted HR Pros on Sunday 6/29 
Explore how introverts thrive in today’s fast-changing workplace using deep listening, preparation, and connection.

🤝 ERGs for Introverts: Building Inclusion on Monday, 6/30
Learn how groups like Itopia and Lions@Heart are modeling ERGs that support introverted employees through mentoring, community, and leadership visibility.

💬 If you’re attending SHRM25, let’s connect!

💡 Let’s Keep Building Quiet-Friendly Workplaces

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD
Keynote Speaker | Author | Host of The Introvert Ally Podcast

📘 Pre-order the 3rd edition of The Introverted Leader
🎉 Join the launch celebration on June 24 at 12 PM ET
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Thank you my friends!

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, Ph.D., 

Certified Speaking Professional

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Dear friends,
 

The Power of Introversion in Consulting Leaders with Gayle Lantz

This week on Introvert Ally, I welcome longtime friend and visionary leadership consultant Gayle Lantz, founder of WorkMatters, Inc. Gayle has spent her career guiding leaders—from scrappy startups to household names like NASA and Microsoft—through growth, change, and reinvention.

Gayle opens up about her journey as an introverted leader and how embracing that identity has strengthened her work as both a consultant and a coach. Her quiet superpowers—deep listening, thoughtful reflection, and being fully present—have become her greatest tools in a world that often rewards speed over substance.

Together, Jennifer and Gayle explore how introversion isn’t a hurdle in leadership—it’s a hidden strength.

🎧IN THIS EPISODE:

✨ How introverted strengths like presence, clarity, and deep listening build client trust.
✨ Why sharing your personal story can be a powerful leadership tool,
✨ The role of reinvention and experimentation in staying energized and relevant.

“Listening isn’t just waiting to talk. It’s reflecting, clarifying, and showing someone that you’re truly with them in the moment. That’s where trust and insight begin.”

🎙️ LISTEN NOW

👉 You can listen to the podcast at our website.
🔗 Connect with Gayle:
🌐 WorkMatters.com
🔗 LinkedIn

Thanks for tuning in to Introvert Ally—where we elevate the quieter voices leading the way.

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD, is a keynote speaker, bestselling author, and host of The Introvert Ally podcast. Her pioneering books are in 18 languages. Pre-order her book, The Introverted Leader: Building on Your Quiet Strength, 3rd Edition, and join us on June 24th at noon EST for our virtual launch, featuring giveaways and celebrations! Register here.

www.jenniferkahnweiler.com
jennifer@jenniferkahnweiler.com
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This week on Introvert Ally, I’m joined by Gwen Acton, a scientist and leadership innovator who went from being a shy student to earning her PhD at MIT. Now, she’s helping others—especially introverts—become effective leaders in science and technology.

Gwen shares her journey and introduces an exciting new AI-powered tool that helps managers improve their communication by simulating real-time conversations and offering feedback on both words and tone.

🎧 IN THIS EPISODE:
🔹 The connection between introversion, STEM, and leadership
🔹 Why technical experts need strong communication skills
🔹 How AI is transforming leadership development
🔹 Research showing that 70% of an employee’s experience is shaped by their direct manager
🔹 A new way to practice tough conversations before they happen

💡 WHY IT MATTERS:
This episode is a powerful reminder that leadership is a skill—not a personality type. Gwen’s work proves that with the right tools and practice, introverts can thrive as team leaders. Her story shows how thoughtful communication, not volume, drives impact.

✅ ACTION STEPS:
✔️ Explore research on teamwork and communication in science and tech.
✔️ Try Gwen’s AI-powered conversation practice tool.
✔️ Connect with Gwen to learn more about her work in leadership development.

🎙️ LISTEN NOW
👉 You can listen to the podcast at our website.

Thanks for tuning in to Introvert Ally—where we elevate the quieter voices leading the way.

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD, is a keynote speaker, bestselling author, and host of The Introvert Ally podcast. Her pioneering books are in 18 languages. Pre-order her book, The Introverted Leader: Building on Your Quiet Strength, 3rd Edition, and join us on June 24th at noon EST for our virtual launch, featuring giveaways and celebrations! Register here.

www.jenniferkahnweiler.com
jennifer@jenniferkahnweiler.com
404-316-6891

This week on Introvert Ally, I’m joined by the thoughtful and dynamic Jennifer FitzPatrick, MSW, LCSW-C, CSP. Jennifer is a leading expert in caregiving, aging, and healthcare customer service. She shares compelling insights about how introversion affects both the employee and patient experience in healthcare and senior living settings. You can listen at our website or on your favorite podcast app.

Jennifer and I explore why it's critical for healthcare leaders to understand and accommodate introverted employees and patients—especially in our post-COVID world.

💡 Key Takeaways from Our Conversation

Take Breaks and Be Flexible

💤 Burnout continues to be a major issue in healthcare. Jennifer highlights the need for meaningful breaks—and not just in cars or chapels.
🧘 Some organizations are starting to allow mental health days and are setting clearer expectations to support employee well-being.
🕒 Flexibility matters. Accommodating schedules can significantly boost recruitment, retention, and performance.

Patients and Providers are a Team

🗣️ Healthcare professionals and patients should work together as partners. That starts with open communication and advocacy.
🧑‍⚕️ Patients should feel empowered to request accommodations without fear or hesitation.
❗Don’t make assumptions—ask! Everyone’s introversion or extroversion looks different, so clear conversations matter.

🎙️ About This Week’s Guest: Jennifer FitzPatrick

Jennifer FitzPatrick, MSW, LCSW-C, CSP, is the founder of Jenerations Health Education, a nationally recognized speaker, and an expert in healthcare communication and caregiving. One of fewer than 800 Certified Speaking Professionals worldwide, she has taught at Johns Hopkins University and authored two acclaimed books.

Jennifer serves on several national boards and has been featured in media outlets like Forbes, ABC, CBS, SiriusXM, and U.S. News & World Report.

🎧 Listen to the episode now and learn how being introvert-aware leads to healthier outcomes for everyone—from patient to provider.
 

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD, is a keynote speaker, bestselling author, and host of The Introvert Ally podcast. Her pioneering books are in 18 languages. Pre-order her book, The Introverted Leader: Building on Your Quiet Strength, 3rd Edition, and join us on June 24th at noon EST for our virtual launch, featuring giveaways and celebrations! Register here.

www.jenniferkahnweiler.com
jennifer@jenniferkahnweiler.com
404-316-6891

In this week’s episode, Jennifer Kahnweiler speaks with renowned business relationships strategist Andy Lopata about the intersection of networking, mentoring, and introversion. Together, they explore how introverts can harness their natural strengths—like listening and thoughtful reflection—to build powerful professional relationships.

You can listen at our website or on your favorite podcast app.

Andy shares his journey into business networking, which began with a family business and evolved into a global platform for relationship-building and mentoring. Drawing from his newest book, The Financial Times Guide to Mentoring, co-authored with Ruth Gotian, Andy offers insights on developing strategic mentoring relationships and how introverts can thrive in these settings.

The episode also touches on the role of authenticity in social media, the use of AI in professional development, and actionable tips for introverts looking to build meaningful networks.

Topics Covered:

• Andy's personal and professional journey in networking

• Strategic mentoring: principles and practical guidance

• The strengths introverts bring to networking and relationship-building

• Andy’s 24-7-30 follow-up method for building connections

• Navigating authenticity and consistency on LinkedIn

• Using AI for productivity and communication

• Finding your voice online—without obsessing over engagement metrics

Featured Resource

Andy’s Book:

The Financial Times Guide to Mentoring
Co-authored with Dr. Ruth Gotian

Andy interviewed Jennifer on his podcast, 

🔗 Links & Resources

• Andy Lopata’s website: https://lopata.co.uk/

Click here to listen now and share with a friend who needs to hear this message.

With warmth.
 

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD, is a keynote speaker, bestselling author, and host of The Introvert Ally podcast. Her pioneering books are in 18 languages. Pre-order her book, The Introverted Leader: Building On Your Quiet Strength 3rd Edition, and sign up here to join our launch team for a complimentary copy of the book and other cool giveaways!

www.jenniferkahnweiler.com
jennifer@jenniferkahnweiler.com
404-316-6891

Dear friendsj

If you have been near a news outlet these past few weeks, you probably know that a new Pope has been named. I believe Pope Leo, the leader of billions of followers, is most likely an introvert.

Those who know him best say he is a gentle person who has built deep relationships. Rev. Robert Hagan, a longtime friend, describes Leo as someone who "loves to laugh, tell stories, and engage personally with everyone he meets.”  High school and college classmate, Rev. Mark Francis, remembers Leo as “the quiet one who listened deeply and brought people together without fanfare.”

In assessing the new pope’s leadership style, let’s review how it matches the six qualities we uncovered in our research on quiet influence.

1. Taking Quiet Time

Definition: Carving out space for reflection fuels clarity and insight. It unleashes your most creative thoughts, sustains your energy, increases your understanding of yourself and others, and helps you maintain focus.

Pope Leo XIV: As an Augustinian friar, Leo is deeply rooted in contemplative practices. His background emphasizes inner stillness, study, and prayer, foundational to his thoughtful, measured decision-making. Those who know him describe a man who leads with deep personal reflection, not impulse.

2. Preparation

Definition: Using advanced thinking and planning to influence effectively. This helps you to become an expert, prove the value of your proposals, involve others, and increase your confidence.

Pope Leo XIV: Before his election, he had decades of preparation as a missionary, bishop, and Vatican administrator. His successful handling of sensitive Church matters (e.g., disciplining divisive clergy while maintaining pastoral care) speaks to his meticulous planning and calmness under pressure. He has is fluent in multiple languages. This preparation has helped him to build relationships and “win people over quietly as he did in his years in Peru,” according to Cardinal Timothy Dolan. Friends from his time of religious study recall that Leo was always the one who quietly asked the most profound questions and was never satisfied with surface-level answers.

3. Engaged Listening

Definition: Listening attentively and without distraction helps you understand situations, deepens your empathy, gains credibility, and builds engagement.

Pope Leo XIV: He has been widely praised for his ability to listen deeply during the recent conclave  (the process by which a new pope is chosen) and throughout his previous leadership roles. Cardinals said he didn’t win people over by speeches, but by how he listened. It was the way he conducted himself in small-group discussions, not through speeches.  He embodies the kind of presence that invites trust and reflection. "It was how he said things,” one cardinal observed.

4. Focused Conversations

Definition: Using well-timed, purposeful dialogue to make an impact. This back-and-forth dialogue helps you support and encourage others, spark learning, solve problems, and work through conflict.

Pope Leo XIV: His first appearance as pope modeled focused communication — short, intentional messages that conveyed humility and unity. In past roles, he has not been a grandstander but rather someone who chooses words wisely and builds consensus in quiet, powerful ways. His high school classmate, Rev. Mark Francis, noted that “he was always the quiet one who listened deeply and brought people together without fanfare.”

5. Writing

Definition: Expressing thoughts clearly in writing to inspire and inform. Writing helps you to clarify your stance, advocate for your position, connect with others, and motivate them to action.

Pope Leo XIV: His past statements and pastoral letters (especially on immigration and justice) demonstrate a clear, compassionate voice. Vatican insiders say he is expected to carry on Pope Francis’s legacy of impactful writing with his own intellectual and spiritual touch. He has already spoken out about making the risks and benefits of Artificial Intelligence a part of his platform.

6. Thoughtful Use of Social Media (and now AI)

Definition: Use social platforms carefully to extend influence, not self-promotion. Implement them to move people to action, develop and grow relationships, achieve visibility, and teach and learn.

Pope Leo XIV: Before becoming Pope, he was active on social media. He had over ½ million followers on X (formerly Twitter) and did not hold back his strong views on the death penalty, immigration, gun control, racism, and many other issues. According to the NY Times (5/15/25), “less than a week into the role, Leo XIV has publicly highlighted his concerns about Artificial Intelligence. He has said the church would address the risks that artificial intelligence poses to human dignity, justice, and labor.” It will be interesting to see how he expresses his positions on these issues as he steps into the role of pope, given that it has been an essential vehicle for expressing his views.

This analysis shows Pope Leo XIV exemplifies the power of quiet influence and introverted leadership. In addition to the qualities outlined above, his example of humility can impact us at a time when so many world leaders are exhibiting the exact opposite traits.
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Remember to pre-order my new book, The Introverted Leader: Building On Your Quiet Strength, 3rd edition. It will be released on June 24, 2025, and will contain updated information on the hybrid and remote workplace as well as nuggets from many introverted leaders and experts.  

Amazon reviews can be posted the week of release. They help achieve visibility for the new work. We will send you a complimentary copy when you agree to write a review and share it with your networks.  Email Bonnie at bonnie@davisvirtualassistance.com. 

Don’t forget to tune in to our great guests on this season of The Introvert Ally!

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD, is a keynote speaker, bestselling author, and host of The Introvert Ally podcast. Her pioneering books are in 18 languages. Pre-order her book, The Introverted Leader: Building On Your Quiet Strength 3rd Edition, and sign up here to join our launch team for a complimentary copy of the book and other incredible giveaways! Please feel free to contact us about our new virtual speaking programs. 

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Thank you my friends!

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, Ph.D., 

Certified Speaking Professional

www.jenniferkahnweiler.com
jennifer@jenniferkahnweiler.com
404-316-6891

Dear friends,

In this heartfelt episode of Introvert Ally, I sit down with Pierre Lehu, longtime collaborator and co-author of the late, legendary Dr. Ruth Westheimer. You probably know Dr. Ruth for her trailblazing sex education work, but in her final years, she turned her attention to a quieter crisis: loneliness.

Together with Pierre and journalist Allison Gilbert, Dr. Ruth co-authored The Joy of Connections: 100 Ways to Beat Loneliness and Live a Happier, More Meaningful Life. This episode gives you a behind-the-scenes look at how that book came to life and the powerful lessons it holds for introverts and extroverts alike.

Listen now to hear:

•    The surprising story behind how Dr. Ruth got her first radio show
•    How her early losses shaped her need for deep relationships
•    Why loneliness isn’t just a senior issue—it’s hitting younger people harder
•    Practical, research-backed ways to reconnect in your daily life

Tips from the book you can use today:

•    Sit at the bar instead of a table when dining alone—you’re more likely to strike up conversation.
•    Join a class or meetup that plays to your strengths—it boosts confidence and connection.
•    Don’t underestimate the power of face-to-face time, even in a remote world.

Memorable Words:

“Look in the mirror and admit that you’re lonely. That’s the first step to connection.” – Dr. Ruth

“She didn’t grow up a celebrity, so she never tired of people coming up to her—she loved it.” – Pierre Lehu

Whether you’re an introvert seeking quiet connection or an extrovert in need of more meaning, this episode offers real strategies to help all of us feel less alone.

Click here to listen now and share with a friend who needs to hear this message.

With warmth.
 

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD, is a keynote speaker, bestselling author, and host of The Introvert Ally podcast. Her pioneering books are in 18 languages. Pre-order her book, The Introverted Leader: Building On Your Quiet Strength 3rd Edition, and sign up here to join our launch team for a complimentary copy of the book and other cool giveaways!

www.jenniferkahnweiler.com
jennifer@jenniferkahnweiler.com
404-316-6891

Dear friends,

Don't miss this podcast with Carrie Wheeler! You can listen at our website or on your favorite podcast app.

In this episode of Introvert Ally, Jennifer chats with Carrie Wheeler, a seasoned technology and operations executive and the current CEO of Liquid Web. Carrie shares her unique career journey—from pre-med to business to becoming a prominent leader in global tech and operations. Offering thoughtful insights, she reflects on what it means to lead as an introvert in a traditionally male-dominated industry and how embracing her true self has fueled her success.

Listeners will gain valuable lessons on authenticity, emotional intelligence, and fostering space for quieter voices in both in-person and remote work environments, and much more.

Key Takeaways:

• Introverted leaders thrive by leaning into their strengths—listening, reflection, and thoughtful communication.

• Trust grows through authenticity, humility, and vulnerability.

• Leaders must intentionally create room for introverted voices to be heard.

• Remote work requires structured, human-focused engagement strategies to succeed.

You can listen wherever you get your podcasts or on my website. If you enjoy the episode, please share it with your friends! We also appreciate ratings on Apple Podcasts.

Thank you, and enjoy!

Warm regards,
 

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD, is a keynote speaker, bestselling author, and host of The Introvert Ally podcast. Her pioneering books are in 18 languages. Pre-order her book, The Introverted Leader: Building On Your Quiet Strength 3rd Edition, and sign up here to join our launch team for a complimentary copy of the book and other cool giveaways!

www.jenniferkahnweiler.com
jennifer@jenniferkahnweiler.com
404-316-6891

Dear friends, This podcast with Dick Finnegan is not to be missed! You can listen at our website or on your favorite podcast app.

Introverts may never tell you they are unhappy unless you ask. In this episode, Jennifer is joined by turnover expert Dick Finnegan, who shares his proven approach to reducing employee turnover with one powerful tool: the stay interview. As CEO of C-Suite Analytics and author of The Power of Stay Interviews, Dick explains how asking just five key questions can significantly boost retention, engagement, and trust between managers and their teams.

Dick takes us through his journey, from working in traditional HR to becoming a leading voice in employee retention. He highlights how turnover is often more about who manages employees than where or what they do, and how stay interviews give managers the tools they need to keep their best people. Interestingly, introverted leaders are especially well-suited to lead these critical conversations.

Key topics we discussed:

• The five essential questions every manager should ask in a stay interview.

• Why should accountability for turnover fall to managers, not HR?

• The underestimated cost of losing employees (up to $18,700 per entry-level role!

And much more!  You can listen wherever you get your podcasts or on my website. If you enjoy the episode, please share it with your friends! We also appreciate ratings on Apple Podcasts. You can also check out Dick's book Targeting Turnover.

Thank you, and enjoy!

Warm regards,

Jennifer B. Kahnweiler, PhD, is a keynote speaker, bestselling author, and host of The Introvert Ally podcast. Her pioneering books are in 18 languages. Pre-order her book, The Introverted Leader: Building On Your Quiet Strength 3rd Edition, and sign up here to join our launch team for a complimentary copy of the book and other cool giveaways!

www.jenniferkahnweiler.com
jennifer@jenniferkahnweiler.com
404-316-6891